Real Living

Integrating the Truths of Faith into Everyday Life

“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.”
—J. R. R. Tolkien

Upcoming Events

St. John’s Day | Wine Blessing

2023 Charlemagne Ball


Alcuin understood that the movement of the mind from a state of ignorance to a state of knowledge, though at times difficult, ought not be a cold, sterile, and impersonal act that hardens the soul. Education should instead resemble a well-planned meal, advancing from course to course, each plate preparing the next, in the end leaving the guest utterly satisfied, yet somehow desiring more. The pleasure of the feast is a result of the company kept and the food served. Alcuin maintained that the best intellectual diet consisted of ‘ancient’ fare, that is ‘toothsome food’ that has been proven to cause health and vitality.

The Alcuin Institute seeks to return to this kind of education, one that is at once broad and deep, yet light and whimsical, and thoroughly grounded in the primary sources of the Christian West; the deer and pheasant to be found in our very own precincts. Such a feast among friends in Christ is “the best that life can offer.”

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Upcoming Events

St. John’s Day | Wine Blessing

For ages, Catholics throughout Christendom have had their wine blessed on the feast of St. John the Apostle. The tradition originates from the legend that the Beloved Disciple of Jesus once partook of a glass of poisoned wine, but was miraculously unharmed on account of the special blessing that he gave it with the Sign of the Cross. In the not-so-distant past, Catholics would bring their bottles and barrels of vino to the Church on the feast of St. John (Dec. 27th) to have their wine blessed. The wine would then be drunk by the family for protection against poisoning and the promise of good health. It would also be offered to guests throughout the year as a most fitting gesture of Catholic hospitality. Join us as we revive this ancient tradition of our faith! This family-friendly celebration will start with Mass, followed by a social, the blessing of wine, and a reception with delectable desserts. So, grab your favorite bottle of Merlot, Cab, or Rosé, and come as we "drink the love of St. John" and toast in the New Year!  

2023 Charlemagne Ball

In the not-too-distant past, it was oft said that if you went to the waltz, you might just fall in love. A simpler time; courtship and romance was a game played not in the ethereal, digital realm, but rather on the ballroom floor. And, too, this game not only represented the culture of an age past, but a worldview: a way of seeing the relationship between man and woman—indeed, a way of seeing the relationship between God and man. Join the Diocese of Tulsa for a romantic evening of fine dining and formal dancing, hosted by the Alcuin Institute! Registration for the evening includes a cocktail hour, dinner, a brief waltz demonstration, and two hours of dancing complete with a live string ensemble! Tickets for the event can be purchased for $50 per person. Table purchases, seating 8, are available for $500. Dress for the evening is formal waltz attire. Contact Mr. Eli Stone at for additional information.

Your dance instructor: Monica Lickona

Monica Lickona proudly hails from Buffalo, NY, and has experienced a variety of different styles over her 19 years of dancing. She first got addicted to partner dance through a college ballroom class at her alma mater, DeSales University. Her passion led her to become a full time dancer & teacher with Fred Astaire Dance studios (Jan. 2017- Jul. 2020). She has received professional training in ballroom and Latin dance from the likes of Taliat Tarsinov, Ilya Ifraimov and Tony Dovolani. While teaching, she competed all over the country, including Las Vegas and Orlando. She moved her dance journey to Tulsa in order to begin the dance program at Holy Family Classical School, and has enjoyed sharing dance with many of all ages in the city! She truly believes that EVERYone and ANYone can dance, and she can’t wait to show you how!

Past Events

Martinmas | Celebrating Agrarian Life

Farming and the Church: A Conversation for Realists & Dreamers

@ Southdown Cottage

All are invited to the Alcuin Institute’s annual agrarian celebration of traditional peasant culture. On Sat. Nov. 12, friends from around the Diocese are welcomed to join Prof. Meloche on his farm for an enchanting evening of rustic merriment in honor and celebration of St. Martin of Tours. The evening includes:


A visit of all the farm-beasts that occupy and animate Southdown Cottage


An elegant open-air culinary experience of roasted lamb, locally sourced cured meats and cheeses, and exquisite French champagnes.


A lively discussion with Br. Joseph Marie Owen, O.S.B., Mr. Brandon Sheard, and Ross McKnight on the theoretical importance and the practical struggles of striving for self-sufficiency in the modern technological age. Do consider joining us for an unforgettable evening!

Space is limited; register today!

Abp. Charles Chaput | Bl. Alcuin of York Lecture

Join the Alcuin Institute on October 7th for our annual Bl. Alcuin of York Lecture & Award Ceremony! This year, we are honoring Archbishop Charles Chaput for his tireless work in promoting Catholic culture. Apb. Chaput will, in turn, honor us with a lecture entitled “On the Power of the Powerless”:
Baptism incorporates us into a culture of truth and freedom, commissions us to witness that, and gives us the grace to do it if we just have a little faith and courage.

—Abp. Charles Chaput

The event will begin with Mass at 5:30pm, followed by a social, lecture, and the presentation of our signature Our Lady of Victory Medal. We hope you will be able to join us as we honor this faithful successor to the Apostles and his work to advance Catholic culture! Tickets can be purchased at the link below. Due to space constraints & expected attendance, dinner will not be served. We are happy to provide light hors d'oeuvres and drinks during the social! Questions can be directed to Mr. Eli Stone at

Jeff Cavins | The Great Adventure Bible

The Church of Saint Mary Faith Formation Ministry is excited to announce The Great Adventure – Bible Timeline is coming to our parish in the Fall of 2022! September 9: Adam & David from The Catholic Man Show will record a future broadcast in front of a live audience – you! Their guest is Jeff Cavins, author of The Great Adventure Catholic Bible. This event will take place starting at 6:00 p.m. on Friday, September 9 in the Saint Joseph Parish Hall in the Our Lady of Grace Center on the Church of Saint Mary campus. September 10: Meet Jeff Cavins. Let Jeff explain why Scripture is such an important step in becoming a disciple of Jesus Christ. This morning event begins at 8:30 a.m. It is planned for the parish hall in the Our Lady of Grace Center, but if there are a great many people, we will move to the church.  

Register here!

2022 Faith Formation Conference

Join the Alcuin Institute at the 2022 Faith Formation Conference hosted by the Diocese of Tulsa & Eastern Oklahoma! This annual conference is a wonderful opportunity for catechists, Catholic school teachers, and other faithful Catholic leaders of the Diocese to gather and explore the truths of the Catholic faith, all while networking and gathering tools for evangelizing and catechizing the next generation of Catholics! This year's conference theme is Sacraments: Mysterious Encounters with Christ! Our own faculty members, Drs. Aaron Henderson & Richard Meloche, will be offering two of the breakout sessions—one on the Eucharist and one on the Anointing of the Sick! Keynote speakers include Deacon Harold Burke-Sivers, Monica Ashour, and the Very Rev. Simeon Spitz, OSB! We hope to see you there!  

Santa Fe Pilgrimage – In the Footsteps of Fr. Latour

Join the Alcuin Institute & Fr. Bryan Brooks as we pray, read, eat, and drink our way through New Mexico! Our quest to follow in the footsteps of the faithful priest Fr. Latour in Willa Cather’s Death Comes for the Archbishop will take us to many places in historic Santa Fe, including…  
High Road Mission Churches

“Bishop Latour was riding through the mountains on his first official visit to Taos...”

Loretto Chapel

“The church was utterly black except for the red spark of the sanctuary lamp before the high altar…”

Cathedral Basilica of St. Francis of Assisi

“Now that I have found exactly the stone I want, my Cathedral seems to me already begun.”

San Miguel Chapel

“I want a plain church, but I want a good one.”



Luxury Coach Signature Alcuin hospitality
Abbey Housing $1,000 Double Room
Breakfast & Dinner included Professional Guides
Daily Mass Real Conversation
  Fill out the Pilgrimage Registration Form below to join us! For questions or more details, please contact Ms. Becky Holder at

Registration deadline is June 26th — Sign up soon!

This pilgrimage is done in conjunction with: